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Moments of truth are personal. They happen in different ways for everyone, and for different reasons. Have you ever wondered about the way other people approach their health and their care? Below, check out stories from real people like you about their experiences with the US health care system and with midwifery care. You can also share your own here.

My son's birth and my moment of truth

My moment of truth came as I became a mother for the first time. When I went into labor spontaneously on my due date and excitedly drove with my husband to the hospital, I was met with Pitocin augmentation and an epidural. The physician on-call told me that I was "lucky" that he had some variable decelerations in his heart rate in triage, or else he would have sent me home. I wasn't informed of the risks of Pitocin or other interventions they performed like artificially rupturing the membranes. I was just along for the ride. After 7 hours on Pitocin my son's heart rate plummeted and we were rushed into the OR for a cesarean. He was born perfectly pink and healthy at 9lbs. My OB told me that it wasn't likely that I'd ever be able to have a vaginal birth because "once you have a big baby, they almost always get bigger!" I spiraled into a deep and dark depression and was unable to bond with my son. Our nursing relationship suffered. I had no idea that the birth experience would mean so much to me. When he was 8 months old, I found out I was pregnant again. I realized that this was my chance to take control of my body, my care and the way I was treated in my pregnancy and birth to make everything right. I immersed myself into research about VBAC and CPD and educated myself before I even went to my first appointment. There was no way I was just going to go along for the ride this time. I stopped watching those baby shows on TV and I started sharing my story with anyone who would listen. My second son was born after a quick and exciting 4 hour labor weighing 7lbs even. 3 years later we had a daughter, and just this March we added another son, born at home under the care of midwives. My births have been healing and empowering because I was educated and informed and knew that I deserved providers that respected me. They knew that I was informed about my options in pregnancy and birth and they supported me in trusting my body. My moment of truth came when I realized that I was in control of my body and my health care. My children and I are healthier for it.

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